What Do You Want to Want? 🤔

Hey friends  👋🏻

 

Yes we are half way through 2023. It’s a good time to check in with your goals and progress🙂

 

Here are Doable ideas, Reflections and Mindfulness to try out this week.

Doable ideas 💭

It’s worth spending 15-20 minutes per month to reflect on the wins, progresses and lessons for the month.

 

Can’t be bothered? Answer the following 5 questions every 90 days:

  1. Where am I right now?
  2. What are my wins from the last 90 days?
  3. What are the wins I want for the next 90 days?
  4. Where do I want to be in 12 months?
  5. Where do I want to be in 3 years from now?

(credits to Dr. Benjamin Hardy)

 

Don’t live life on autopilot.

Reflections 🪞

What is something you keep avoiding, and why?

Mindfulness 🧘🏻‍♀️

He says he has learned, especially with depression and anxiety, to shift from asking “What’s the matter with you?” to “What matters to you?” If you want to find a solution, you need to listen to what’s missing in the depressed or anxious person’s life—and help them to find a way to resolving this, the underlying problem.
– Johann Hari

What I’m Working On 💪🏻

Last month I decided to fully embrace the experimental mindset and document my life properly. I filmed myself and wrote observation notes more often. Stay tuned to the next video.

 

The experiment for this month is simple: reduce task-switching on both micro and macro levels.

 

Macro- have a theme for each day to set the tone and get into the right headspace. For example, my current Mondays, Wednesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays are spent in the clinics so that’s themed as “work”. Tuesdays and Fridays might be “admin” and “content creation”. Sundays might be “rest” or “recreation”. This means when I work I’m in full work mode; and when I hang out with others I’m fully present, not thinking about work.

 

Micro- 3 lessons I found the most effective for me in terms of getting into deep work mode and getting more of the right things done in the past:

1 set no more than 3 tasks each day

2 eat the frog – tackle the hardest task first

3 full screen on current task

 

Will continue testing to explore the (positive) impact of reducing task switching costs.

Ideas Worth Pondering 🧠

I do a core value exercise every 3 months (credits to Chris Sparks) to update my priorities and approaches to life. This quarter I decided to change 2 of my values to reflect who I want to become.

 

Most people don’t know what they truly want.

 

They go after things that the society tells them they “should” get.

 

My definition of “freedom” is simple: defy the society script through constantly asking myself “what do I want to want?”.

 

Read this fantastic article here on this subject matter. Essentially, you need to create space and time to listen to your own voice in order to live a life you will not regret later on.

 

Hence I’m a big fan of periodic reflection (I do weekly, monthly, quarterly and yearly at the moment): I experiment, track my progress and tweak approaches/goals if needed.

 

Change is not scary.

 

Having lots of regrets later on in life sounds more like my definition of hell.

 

Choose the unknown over the certainty.

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